The above techniques might sound quite simple but this is some of the most powerful stuff you will perhaps ever learn. This is all about being more aware of your own mind and once again, taking control of that in order to change the way you want to think and feel.
You can use CBT to overcome any phobia or any problem. If you’re afraid of heights, assess why and then start to address those fears and to reprogram the way you think about them.
Likewise, if you find that you’re not great at meeting women/men, you can likely practice in your mind and force yourself to face those fears.
But you can take CBT further too and impact on other areas of your life. Here are some good examples…
If you’re someone who struggles to get to sleep, then you’ll know that this can end up impacting every other aspect of your life and leave you tired, stressed and even unhealthy.
The problem? The later it gets, the more stressed and anxious you become. The solution is to apply a little CBT. This time, the focus is going to be on identifying your thought processes and then seeing what would be more useful in that given moment.
The problem is trying to ‘force’ yourself to sleep. When you do this, you create stress and when you’re stressed, you can’t sleep.
Instead, try reminding yourself that it doesn’t matter if you get to sleep – as long as you’re resting. Resting is good for you no matter what, so just lie down and enjoy being comfy. Focus on it. You’ll be asleep in minutes.
CBT is incredibly effective for treating anxiety attacks. Somewhat ironically, one of the biggest dangers with panic attacks is that they make us stressed. Because we’re stressed about anxiety, this makes us become even more stressed and we work ourselves into a fluster that can end with fainting and hyperventilation.
The solution? You have to just acknowledge it for what it is and allow it to pass. Say ‘this is a panic attack, I must let it run its course’ and then just allow it to happen. Go about your business as you normally would and don’t try and do anything about it.
You can also do something similar when trying to be less stressed generally – and especially when trying to calm yourself before an interview. Instead of worrying that you’re stressed, just remind yourself that stress can be useful. Now let yourself
Something else powerful you can use is to apply a ‘gratitude attitude’. This is like CBT, except in this case you’re not trying to combat a fear or stress. Instead, you’re simply going to change your focus again – and this time you’re focussing on what makes you happy and what you’re grateful for.
This is a great change because a lot of us are so caught up in everything that’s wrong, that we never think about how much is right.
Take a moment at the end of each day and write down the things you are grateful for. Your partner maybe? Your job? Your house? Your dog? The computer game you’re playing? There’s so much to be happy about but a lot of the time we miss it. Take your new ability to change the way you think and focus on it. Suddenly everything becomes happier.